I used to take my spelling seriously but now I've gone completely the other way, I think watching people I care about having a really hard time in life because their grammar, spelling and punctuation isn't great (that's through no fault of their own), it has made me dislike the people who make them feel thick for not being good at it.
Very much this!
A couple of stories, which I’ve probably shared before.
When we were living in the UK, I was still taking university courses (through the Air Force) at night and on weekends, and one class I had was in creative writing, taught by an English instructor.
Now, the British have a reputation for being very…precise with their language usage, so I was thrilled when he explained that the entire purpose of communication was to transfer meaning and understanding, and as long as that happens, then the spelling and grammar rules were rather superfluous, there as a guide, but not as a cudgel. As such, he rarely marked things down for “poor” grammar or spelling - as long as he understood, it was fine.
there was an ex-teacher on a forum I used to frequent who correct his posts or picked him up on his mistakes every single time.
45 days out from her stroke, still in therapy, MrsT went out to her first public event, a small auction of breweriana, and we bought something and went to pay at the end, by check.
The amount was $14 and some change, and she suddenly had a brain fart when spelling fourteen, and the
azzhole gentleman collecting the money very loudly corrected her spelling, speaking to her in a childish and patronizing tone, which made her feel extremely small and, IMO, set her back quite a bit with feeling comfortable in public.
Same thing happened a few years later, with a walking tour guide in London. MrsT to this day will have issues with word-finding, and sometimes it’ll sound like she’s about to stutter, but it’s just her brain and her mouth trying to get synced up.
The tour guide asked where everyone was from, and she started to answer, but stumbled a bit, and before she could recover, he affected an extreme “Porky Pig” accent, and said something along the lines of, “A real testament to the American education system, this one…try again, luv!”
Throughout the tour, it became apparent he had real issues with Americans, as he couldn’t go far enough out of his way to level insult after insult, and always in a “Just joking…but not really” tone of voice.
You can guess what kind of tip he got, and what kind of review his employer got regarding his conduct (and not just from us).
So now I relish starting sentences with But or And or using slang abbreviations because I can feel my English teacher rankle even a thousand miles away
What’s interesting about this is, people will point out, “That’s not grammatically correct, quit trying to change the language!” yet I can go back to Victorian text…Regency…Elizabethan…even Medieval writings, and show where monks were happily starting sentences or paragraphs with And/So/But, what have you…so who’s done the changing, eh?
Funny how those folks are always fast to point out what’s changed as incorrect since they learned to speak and write, yet utterly fail to recognize that when they were coming up, they were happily embracing changes to previous generations’ use of language. Oh, I suppose we all just managed to get it right just as you came along, how lucky for you!