Plans for today (2025)

One Christmas 20+ years ago a long time after the affair was supposedly over they got a family Christmas card addressing his mum, dad and “the boys”.
Except it was a different woman’s first name (not his mums), it was the name of the woman he had been caught having an affair with.
Plus they have two boys AND a girl.
Plus his mum didn’t know anything of the people who sent it.

It was flung on the table in front of everyone at cup of tea time, she wanted an explanation.
I thought Oh hell, this is going to be catastrophic.

But he had taken to sometimes calling his wife by her middle name which was coincidentally the same as the woman he had been having the affair with, I think possibly it was to cover up getting them mixed up.
So when he feigned ignorance and turned it into a big joke everyone believed him.

Except me. I couldn’t believe what I was witnessing. Five of them all laughing and guffawing at the silly people who sent a Christmas card to the wrong house 😳
What amazing skills this man has and how blind are these people?!
I mentioned it to Mr SSOAP after and was summarily dismissed, I was reading too much into it.
I had my suspicions confirmed about 10years after that but that’s another story!

I think they all wanted to believe it so they did.
Did he have children with this other woman? Just wondering who "the boys" were.

What a messy situation.
 
He says not but who knows? If he was with her that long it’s a possibility isn’t it 😬
One of my brothers did that (and the one you’d least expect…it’s always the quiet ones…) - he had a whole second family just over the river! :laugh:
 
Crazy isn’t it. I don’t have enough time or energy to give everything I’d like to to the one family I’m part of!

So he got caught out in the end?
I don’t want to get into too many details, as we’re not in he shielded part of the forum, but no he didn’t get caught out, he just made a decision as to which family he preferred and went from there.

It was a helluva crazy circumstance, at the level of a great ‘60’s farce movie, and there are still days when I see him and think, “I can’t believe you actually pulled that off!”

There are…three second/third marriages in my family (that I know of) that would make excellent TV viewing. You start out thinking things like that are an aberration, but as you make your way through the world, you realize it’s a lot more common than you think. Everyone has skeletons back there somewhere. :laugh:
 
I don’t want to get into too many details, as we’re not in he shielded part of the forum, but no he didn’t get caught out, he just made a decision as to which family he preferred and went from there.

It was a helluva crazy circumstance, at the level of a great ‘60’s farce movie, and there are still days when I see him and think, “I can’t believe you actually pulled that off!”

There are…three second/third marriages in my family (that I know of) that would make excellent TV viewing. You start out thinking things like that are an aberration, but as you make your way through the world, you realize it’s a lot more common than you think. Everyone has skeletons back there somewhere. :laugh:
Those are quite some skeletons though aren’t they.
It seems quite an unkind thing to do. Did if effect the way you viewed him?
 
It seems quite an unkind thing to do. Did if effect the way you viewed him?
It’s too much to get into, but I’ll say his first family had it coming, and more IMO, he just handled it poorly, and yes, even though this’ll sound flippant and I don’t mean it to, it made me think, “Good for you!” :highfive:
 
It’s too much to get into, but I’ll say his first family had it coming, and more IMO, he just handled it poorly, and yes, even though this’ll sound flippant and I don’t mean it to, it made me think, “Good for you!” :highfive:
Ah yes the way people get treated by their family does make a big difference.
A bit like Mr SSOAP’s dad. He’s behaved very poorly and is handling things badly but I have a lot of sympathy because she is nasty and I can imagine a warm embrace would have been hard to resist or give up.
Heyho. Life ay.
A couple more weeks and the SSOAP’s will be back in Spain and far more unreachable 😊
 
I drove to the health place, but couldn't get contact details for my dietician, so I'll email my GP surgery later to ask for them.
Then I popped into a supermarket to get a bit of fresh stuff in case I end up stuck in the house all day friday.

I have today and tomorrow to sort this room before my cabinets get delivered. I've moved some items, got a few that can still get moved to make a large rearrangement possible.
I also need to tackle the dumping ground (aka surface of dining room table). I do put things down rather than put them away, and yes, I know that's not how I should do it. In my defence I do have a shortage of storage here atm.
Another busy day.
 
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