It gets hammered in to submission, and many wouldn't even recognise the milk is there in the resulting masala. Though having an inolerance, I'm not saying that would definitely be the case in your instance.
I don't know. The problem is if I have even a teaspoon I feel sick for about 2 hours afterwards. Its not life threatening or anything. I just feel sick in my stomach. Same with mayo and taramasalata. Its not the end of the world but it means if I cooking something for others with coconut milk I can't really taste test it (which I do repeatedly whenever I cook).
I could try cooking this dish to see - but....