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Our smaller town ( < 30,000) newspaper posts mug shots daily. I didn't follow the mugs prior to Coronavirus. Now that I have time on my hands and read that domestic violence charges are on the rise, I have been following the mug shots and I would say 50% are for domestic. The other day the first three mugs were for domestic and all three were women that were charged. Of course, since I didn't follow prior, I have no base to gauge against.
 
medtran49 said:
I've been wondering what the statistics on domestic violence have been doing.
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Here there are reports of a big increase in calls to helplines re this - but of course, with everyone trapped at home it can be impossible for the abused to call a help line so that is probably the tip of an iceberg.
 
Corona- mental health related issues here. Read if you want to.

OK so our eldest has OCD and autism/developmental delay. His OCD started with washing hands continuously, but recently that has shifted to mumbling and repeating EVERYTHING he reads anywhere, which he has to do 4 times. If he does it 'wrong' he has to do one word 16 times, and if that goes wrong 64 times etc. So this occupies his entire day. Psychiatric help cannot be offered, because he has autism with comomorbid diagnoses he doesn't 'fit' anywhere in the healthcare system. He gets pills and the rest is up to us.

So last week he came back here because his therapist thought things were escalating at his mom's, and he would be better off here. Well, things are escalating just the same way here. He got therapy calls ever day at his mom's, but not here because we live in a different region and bureaucracy does not allow them to call us. So it's worse here because he gets absolutely zero help until he's had his intake for a facility near us which will be by phone next week due to the corona crisis. Exactly what kind of help they will offer is unclear.

Yesterday the eldest was doing his rituals and our younger son decided he was through with it and got mad. This made the eldest aggressive, and he followed the youngest into his bedroom. This made the youngest shriek like a banshee and threaten to hurt the eldest, who kept repeating that he did nothing wrong and that the youngest was a *fing* brat for being angry at him. So we had to interfere and my husband had to force the eldest to go to his room to calm down, all the while being called names and the like. Then the eldest went to trash things in his room. So that's when we called the police, because we had to physically intervene and we cannot guarantee the safety of the youngest.

The police sent a very kind officer to us who has referred us to a crisis team that can be called next time it escalates and who will evaluate if the eldest needs forced psychiatric residency. That's the only straw we have now, as he had calmed down when the police came. Otherwise, no help has been offered from any authorities and we're very anxious about it all.
 
Buongiorno a tutti,
I hope all are OK. Been trying get through to Hospital all morning. Finally I speak with doctor he tell me Luca stable but he very sick. This drive me crazy no be there I can not eat I can not sleep every time phone ring I start cry in case it hospital to tell me Luca gone. So unfair I can not be with my child. Doctor tell me if anything change they call straight away.
Ray tell me even if we could get to Napoli they no let us see Luca any way so we have wait an see. This breaking my heart first Ray then Gianni die an now Luca sick. I ask God what I do so bad.

Sarana x
 
Windigo said:
Corona- mental health related issues here. Read if you want to.

OK so our eldest has OCD and autism/developmental delay. His OCD started with washing hands continuously, but recently that has shifted to mumbling and repeating EVERYTHING he reads anywhere, which he has to do 4 times. If he does it 'wrong' he has to do one word 16 times, and if that goes wrong 64 times etc. So this occupies his entire day. Psychiatric help cannot be offered, because he has autism with comomorbid diagnoses he doesn't 'fit' anywhere in the healthcare system. He gets pills and the rest is up to us.

So last week he came back here because his therapist thought things were escalating at his mom's, and he would be better off here. Well, things are escalating just the same way here. He got therapy calls ever day at his mom's, but not here because we live in a different region and bureaucracy does not allow them to call us. So it's worse here because he gets absolutely zero help until he's had his intake for a facility near us which will be by phone next week due to the corona crisis. Exactly what kind of help they will offer is unclear.

Yesterday the eldest was doing his rituals and our younger son decided he was through with it and got mad. This made the eldest aggressive, and he followed the youngest into his bedroom. This made the youngest shriek like a banshee and threaten to hurt the eldest, who kept repeating that he did nothing wrong and that the youngest was a *fing* brat for being angry at him. So we had to interfere and my husband had to force the eldest to go to his room to calm down, all the while being called names and the like. Then the eldest went to trash things in his room. So that's when we called the police, because we had to physically intervene and we cannot guarantee the safety of the youngest.

The police sent a very kind officer to us who has referred us to a crisis team that can be called next time it escalates and who will evaluate if the eldest needs forced psychiatric residency. That's the only straw we have now, as he had calmed down when the police came. Otherwise, no help has been offered from any authorities and we're very anxious about it all.
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You have my love an thoughts Bella. I hope you get some help you need.
Sarana x
 
Windigo said:
Corona- mental health related issues here. Read if you want to.
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That sounds just terrible, Windigo - your home is supposed to be where you can relax and this is the opposite of that. So much turmoil. :(

I'm with you, I hope you don't need to call on that extra level of intervention, but I'm glad it's there if you need it.

It can be so heartbreaking trying to rationalize with someone with mental health issues. I have one nephew who's high-functioning autistic, and when he was growing up, he could be quite a challenge to be around, and I have another, he's well into adulthood, with bipolar disorder, and when he goes off his meds...look out. He's living in a completely different reality from everyone else.

Like I said, it's heartbreaking, because you want to help, but it doesn't seem like there's any way to do so, and it also takes a huge toll, physically and mentally on you. You must be exhausted.

Just make sure you keep your own safety and well-being in mind. Big hug. :hug:
 
TastyReuben said:
That sounds just terrible, Windigo - your home is supposed to be where you can relax and this is the opposite of that. So much turmoil. :(

I'm with you, I hope you don't need to call on that extra level of intervention, but I'm glad it's there if you need it.

It can be so heartbreaking trying to rationalize with someone with mental health issues. I have one nephew who's high-functioning autistic, and when he was growing up, he could be quite a challenge to be around, and I have another, he's well into adulthood, with bipolar disorder, and when he goes off his meds...look out. He's living in a completely different reality from everyone else.

Like I said, it's heartbreaking, because you want to help, but it doesn't seem like there's any way to do so, and it also takes a huge toll, physically and mentally on you. You must be exhausted.

Just make sure you keep your own safety and well-being in mind. Big hug. :hug:
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Yes I am extremely tired, due to my auto immune conditions I already am chronically tired and this on top of it is just exhausting. Mainly because our bedroom is next to the bathroom and the eldest has a nightly ritual that can take up to three hours where he walks up and down the stairs to the bathroom to was his hands while talking to himself and making random noises.
I always go to bed early because I need the rest and also need to get up at least twice a night due to having no colon. I have not slept through a night since the surgery and this on top of it is really hard.

I am used to it but yes, this is greatly impairing my ability to function. So the good news is that we're getting domestic help from the government from next tuesday, someone who will take on my cleaning and washing duty once a week because they agree we're unable to have me do the household in my current condition with the other problems going on. They will help us for at least a year.

Eldest stepson is already denying what happened yesterday and pushing us to allow him in his brother's room so the atmosphere is tense here.
 
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