One way to find out…I think you’re right to let her step up.
For decades, two of my brothers hosted a big family cookout each - one on Memorial Day (end of May) to start the summer, and one on Labor Day (beginning of September), to end the summer.
When we moved back to Ohio, I threw a third one in the mix - I hosted one July 4th, sort of a middle-of-the-summer one.
After many years of doing that and after having a heart attack that required him being air-lifted to the hospital, one of my brothers approached his two grown kids, both in their 30’s, homes and families and careers of their own, and suggested it was time to pass the responsibility of organizing and hosting “his” cookout down to one or both of them, as it was getting too much for him.
They threw a fit and insisted he keep hosting doing everything - they wanted all the food and festivities and none of the work or expense. He even offered to foot the bill and host it at his house, as long as they took over the planning and cooking, and they refused.
He cancelled his that year, didn’t host another cookout for a good 10 years later, and once he cancelled his, the other two sort of fell by the wayside as well.
I think it’s fantastic she wants to oversee it!
