Thank you for the kind words
We're obviously doing a "low cost" wedding for monetary reasons, but I honestly don't know what kind of wedding party I would like. I love weddings for the meaning they carry, and love the ceremony, but I feel like a lot of things in a "traditional" wedding look like a play put together for others to see. The reception, the photos that look unnatural and fake (the classic "bride and groom looking passionately into each others eyes", "bride looking at her bouquet", "bride and groom holding each other looking in the distance", etc), the meal interrupted a thousand times by speeches and kisses and whatnot, the clumsy first dance, the cake opening where the bride and groom force guests to hold candles for them as they approach the cake, the fireworks during the cake...that all sounds like a play to me, plus I hate that feeling that it's a day with a schedule where you do one thing after the other and there's no spontaneity.
Plus most people I know actually hate attending weddings. They just don't tell the bride and groom they hated their wedding, but before/after they complain how they'll be wasting time attending a wedding this weekend/how they wasted time attending a wedding last weekend. I have the feeling the only people genuinely enthusiastic about the wedding are the bride and groom and their close family.
A colleague of mine had her wedding in a theatre room that they rented, and I wasn't there but I've seen her wedding pictures and in every photo are people are laughing, smiling and genuinely looking like they're having a blast. That is the kind of feeling I like to see in a wedding party.