The General Chat Thread (2016-2022)

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Just off the phone to my little sister. I really wish I was closer at times like this.

She's rather like our mother when it comes to choosing men, aka bad at it. She's married and divorced since I've come to Australia, she's moved in with another during Covid and is now separating from him after having to get the court to evict tenants from her home (the house is wrecked and they only paid 3 months rent in the 15 months they were tenants) so she's totally broke. To top it off, she's just started a new job on the same business park as her now ex-boyfriend, luckily a different company. I had stopped worrying about her. Now though ?

Nothing I could do, except to listen to her cry. She's still got her dog which is one very positive thing. They are very close.
 
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SatNavSaysStraightOn said:
Just off the phone to my little sister. I really wish I was closer at times like this.
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Yep, sounds somewhat similar to my own sister’s bad fortune with men.

Her problem is two-fold; she’s absolutely terrified of being alone at this stage of her life (nearing 60), which makes her land on the first guy who seems remotely possible, and she has an extremely…determined personality, and instead of cutting losses when it’s apparent she should, she doubles down on molding them into the ideal partner.
 
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Yep, sounds somewhat similar to my own sister’s bad fortune with men.

Her problem is two-fold; she’s absolutely terrified of being alone at this stage of her life (nearing 60), which makes her land on the first guy who seems remotely possible, and she has an extremely…determined personality, and instead of cutting losses when it’s apparent she should, she doubles down on molding them into the ideal partner.
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All of her partners have been her father (my ex-step-father) copies. With all the same issues. To add to that her ex husband had a hidden gambling problem and wiped out her credit completely, not to mention her savings and so on. She ended up in court with restraining orders and all sorts, terrified of him. He drank and did drugs as well from what I recall. I never really meet him other than once or twice in passing just before we left the UK.

She has always drunk, way too much in my opinion, but I stayed out of that. Our mother drinks like a fish as well. Her father does as well and our combined childhood was hell. Both parents alcoholics in all but name.

She's lost a lot of weight recently after stopping drinking and I guess some of that means she now sees how much her ex boyfriend is drinking. He's clearly jealous of her, using all the usual insults. Something her father was horrendous for as well. Find the strongest affect of someone and tell them they are bad at it. For me it was intelligence. He only just graduated university with a 3rd class degree. Not an honours degree etc. I graduated with a 1st class honours degree, so I was always called "stupid". My little sister had always been very attractive, so both call her ugly. I forget what my 2 brothers were called, but you get the idea.

If my OH was able to look after himself, I'd fly back to the UK and help out, but we knew when he had this ankle done, that unlike the other one, he'd not be able to drive for at least 3 months, and we're only 1 month into that. So there is very little i can do to help out. I can't even give her money to cover get mortgage or pay for done of the repairs to her house that are needed. I've very little left in the UK in money, just enough to cover a few weeks back in the UK if it was needed, nothing more. So frankly all I can do is to listen and be there. I've just told her how to get around my "silent hours" setting on my phone. It didn't ring out it give any alerts at all between 9pm and 6am. But I have the emergency setting also enabled but you have to ring or sms, not messenger or Facebook. She doesn't get charged for ringing and hanging up... do that twice in 5 minutes and the second call will ring out... It's all I can do for get right now. 2 months ago or 2 months from now is another matter, but living rurally means it is difficult to leave my OH alone at all right now. Not impossible, just very, very difficult.
 
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Just in from doing the wood.

I'm left wondering if I am the only person who, when wielding a hand axe, a splitting axe or the chainsaw, has to play dodge with a flock of chickens who seen to think that the chopping block is the best place to hang out when said implements or weapons are out in use!
 
SatNavSaysStraightOn said:
Just in from doing the wood.

I'm left wondering if I am the only person who, when wielding a hand axe, a splitting axe or the chainsaw, has to play dodge with a flock of chickens who seen to think that the chopping block is the best place to hang out when said implements or weapons are out in use!
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Erm....yep
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Just taken a photo of the cardigan I'm knitting for my husband to update the project page... only to spot a mistake! Darn it (actually other words came to mind but child friendly forum and all that! )

86564


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Keep hoping I just moved the camera as I took the photo... lol
 
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Was that a Freudian slip?

It could be the solution?
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I have been trying to work out how to in my head, and if it was a single colour, it wouldn't be too difficult. If it was Fair Isle knitting, it wouldn't be too difficult but this is something called mosaic stitch where there are stitches from 2 rows below stretched up and over the next 2 rows (that creates the vertical colour) and sadly it is those stitches that means actually hand sewing the joining 'seam of stitches' would be impossible.

But I do think I'll investigate it a little more before i unpick 3 days work. Even if it were to take a days work to repair, it would still be quicker...

I would need to cut out the 4 rows (2 cream and 2 green) that have been duplicated. Then join the knitting together... But the reality is that I'd have to unpick 6 rows (1 green, 2 cream, 2 green, 1 cream) and recreate by hand with a sewing needle not a knitting needle the first 1 green and last 1 cream row and I don't think I know how to let alone if it is even possible to...
 
Heat index right now:

86600

That’s around 38C. Tomorrow is predicted to be about 10F higher, and Wednesday higher still.
 
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