I don't get panicky but everything has its place and even when we were living out of a tent on bikes, everything went in a set place in each pannier, rack pack and bar bag. If I wanted something I knew exactly where it was and could easily get it in a few seconds. My OH on the other hand would be unpacking each and every bag until it was found even after 12 months on the road. Something I found and still do find, very hard to live with. I took to memorising where he put things when he was packing that day (usually by discretely watching him) I still do the same. Today he has his wedding ring with him (its not in the house, though this does not mean it isn't in a pocket somewhere, his phone has gone with him (saw him pick it up), the watch is about to be wrapped as a crhistmas present, and his tablet I have moved from underneath a cushion on the sofa (good thing we don't have children - but that is the difference between him and I, I brought my sister and brother up) and I have put it on charge to the right of the TV. Admittedly this now means it is not where he left it (good thing too) and it is in a black case on a black surface in a dark corner, but there is a black USB lead leading to it which would normally be on the wooden floor... these are the things I check. I have a semi-photographic memory in that I can tell you every pothole, grid, manhole cover, white or yellow line, bend, gate, hole in the wall, dangerous tree and everything else of every road I have ever been on whether it be as a passenger, driver or cyclist (or even pedestrian). I can tell you where on a page I read something to within a line or two (not by word count or line count but by the image in my mind - that is where I am different from most and why I refer to it as semi-photographic - numbers are hard for me being dyslexic, but images are surprisingly easy) I am boring that way, and it does and has cost me friends. I learnt a long time ago not to let on to people I meet in person. Online is different (thankfully) and means I can be me much more easily than around people - which is probably why I live rurally with no neighbours, rarely see or talk to people and generally don't socialise much. Tomorrow is going to be a major challenge for me. An informal (works) do (BBQ Christmas party with a major thunderstorm forecast, so outside might not be an option making indoors more crowded) at a diplomat's house in the capital city in the 'posh' end of town. HELP
View attachment 4612 I will have nothing in common with anyone there, find social scenes difficult and awkward because I can't think about the 'tactful' response for too long before a reply is expected and what I usually say would be better said to a squaddie than in a work's do and as for the diplomatic scene... err, no. I may have had a private education in the UK, but I was just as difficult and awkward and out of place then. OK, I am probably worse now. I'm out of practice!