The General Chat Thread (2016-2022)

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LissaC said:
My great grandmother turned 99 yesterday. She's doing remarkably well for her age, is relatively healthy and fully autonomous, still lives in her own home too . I wish all this shambles ends in time for us to celebrate her 100 birthday in style.
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Congrats! Glad to hear she's so well for her age.
 
Windigo said:
Okay so I wrote yesterday that the peace was returning here, and it is. But I wonder how long, because..

Yesterday evening my husbands ex wife kicked up a storm at the treatment facility for our stepson because he's underweight and not eating enough. Mind you, this has been his condition for the past five years. But suddenly she's blaming the facility for his eating disorder, and is demanding they make the only food he wants to eat or she'll remove him. She does not, or refuses to understand what it means that he has an eating disorder. She says he's fine as long as he gets his mashed potatoes, so they should give him that instead of treat him for his disorder.

Big yikes. This might cause the facility to stop treatment, and we'll be back where we started. I can't even think of that possibility. Right now my stepsons caretaker who arranged the stay is stepping in to talk with her, but she's a very mentally disturbed person so things might go south quickly.

I just hope the facility listens to my stepson who does want treatment over her.
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I am so sorry she is making waves. Is it possible that someone can convince her to make his meals for him? That way, she knows that he's getting the foods he wants and it removes the burden from the facility to cater to him. In your situation, I might even make the meals just to make sure he isn't booted from the facility so he can get the much needed treatments.

Again, I am so sorry you're dealing with all this. Remember to take care of you too.
 
mjd said:
I am so sorry she is making waves. Is it possible that someone can convince her to make his meals for him? That way, she knows that he's getting the foods he wants and it removes the burden from the facility to cater to him. In your situation, I might even make the meals just to make sure he isn't booted from the facility so he can get the much needed treatments.

Again, I am so sorry you're dealing with all this. Remember to take care of you too.
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Thanks :love:

It's not about preference that he's not getting the meals he's used to, he has an eating disorder called arfid (avoidant restrictive food intake disorder) which means that as a part of his treatment he's slowly being exposed to foods he's not used to. He eats his normal crackers and stuff, he just is not getting hot mashed potatoes every day. Giving him that every day, would be keeping his eating disorder untreated. That's not his goal nor something a mental health centre should encourage. That's like telling someone with anorexia that it's OK to starve themselves if they don't get what they want to eat.

He won't be booted from the facility because he wants to eat something else, that's a normal thing for his condition. He might however be booted from it, if his mom can convince him that he is fine eating just mashed potatoes for dinner for all his life and they are starving him by not giving him the food he finds acceptable and he will file a formal complaint with her.

Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID)
 
Windigo said:
Thanks :love:

It's not about preference that he's not getting the meals he's used to, he has an eating disorder called arfid (avoidant restrictive food intake disorder) which means that as a part of his treatment he's slowly being exposed to foods he's not used to. He eats his normal crackers and stuff, he just is not getting hot mashed potatoes every day. Giving him that every day, would be keeping his eating disorder untreated. That's not his goal nor something a mental health centre should encourage. That's like telling someone with anorexia that it's OK to starve themselves if they don't get what they want to eat.

He won't be booted from the facility because he wants to eat something else, that's a normal thing for his condition. He might however be booted from it, if his mom can convince him that he is fine eating just mashed potatoes for dinner for all his life and they are starving him by not giving him the food he finds acceptable and he will file a formal complaint with her.

Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID)
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Thanks for explaining it more. It certainly sounds like a tough spot. It sounds like his mother is a "joy". I just really hope that he continues to seek help and go through the process in spite of her unhelpful interference.

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mjd said:
Thanks for explaining it more. It certainly sounds like a tough spot. It sounds like his mother is a "joy". I just really hope that he continues to seek help and go through the process in spite of her unhelpful interference.

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Honestly for the first years of my marriage she got the benefit of the doubt from me, as I don't trust stories about exes usually. But unfortunately, she proved truly unstable. That's why we're my stepsons primary caregivers and she is not. Most healthcare workers refuse to work with her anymore.

Thank you for your kindness, it always does me good :hug:
 
Totally off topic, all you wonderful people in the USA is there an area of New York called Horsehairs. I dabble in Family History, I ask because I had a great uncle who move to New York from the UK around 1901, was married and they lived and died together in an apartment and records show they lived in an area called Horsehairs. Is this record correct I have not found Horsehairs on a map?
 
Sticky Fingers said:
Totally off topic, all you wonderful people in the USA is there an area of New York called Horsehairs. I dabble in Family History, I ask because I had a great uncle who move to New York from the UK around 1901, was married and they lived and died together in an apartment and records show they lived in an area called Horsehairs. Is this record correct I have not found Horsehairs on a map?
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Perhaps Horseheads? My wife has family there.
 
Windigo said:
Honestly for the first years of my marriage she got the benefit of the doubt from me, as I don't trust stories about exes usually. But unfortunately, she proved truly unstable. That's why we're my stepsons primary caregivers and she is not. Most healthcare workers refuse to work with her anymore.

Thank you for your kindness, it always does me good :hug:
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You need this t-shirt. LOL

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Sticky Fingers said:
Ah, could be I just found that on the map. They had no children and died of carbon monoxide from a heater apparently in 1965/6. Thanks TR
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If you care to share a family name (either here or via a PM), I'll check with my wife. Horseheads isn't very big, and who knows?...you all may be cousins. :)
 
caseydog said:
Geese can be pretty mean. They can't actually injure a person, because they don't have teeth. I used to live by a lake with geese. We reached an "understanding." One good smack to the head, and they get the idea who is boss. That and I fed them. Be good, get food, be bad, get smacked in the head.

CD
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But would you do this?
caseydog said:
Back in November and early December, geese would fly over my house almost daily. Happens every year. They stop for a rest flying South at the ponds just South of my house. Ducks would fly over, too, but they didn't make any noise. For some reason, the geese felt some need to honk as they flew over.

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Would you fo this?

Russ

View: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FIRT7lf8byw&noapp=1
 
Duck59 said:
A humpback whale has been spotted in the Firth of Forth, just north of where we live. We'll be keeping a lookout.
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Wow, is that common at all? I remember driving into the town of Byron bay in nsw in Australia, we were driving along the coast and my wife spotted an orca and calf?? (Baby) in a bay, I pulled into a car park near there and we were so close we could see them. It must have been rare because within 15 mins the car park was full, people everywhere trying to get a look. We had the best seat in the house. It was amazing to see them up close.

Russ
 
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